Your Gang Sex Questions and Answers For Kids

Your Gang Sex and You.

For now I am going to address only those questions that are asked by children who are progressing along the norm'. Don't fret too much if your gang 'monster' has walked in on you and your partner at the wrong moment, unless something really extraordinary was going on, they are unlikely to have the image burned into their minds for ever and a day. ( The more normal you treat sex and bodies the less likely it is that you will have to face the dreaded 'eeeeoooow'! that seems to be the fashion. Your gang will be quite blase about it all.)

Your Gang Sex and Age appropriate Information

Getting back to age appropriate information, you can expect questions to become more to the point, (so to say!) as your gang members get older. You may even find that the questions follow on from the first one quite quickly, more so if your youngster has hitherto been unaware of bulging bellies at an age when most kids, notice these things. Never-the-less they are still going to ask only that which their brains can absorb and assimilate at any particular age. So when the question of how it got in there comes up, (unless they are 16 and asking this!), then really, all they need, are the cold hard facts, like 'Daddy put it there'. Again the answer should be age appropriate, a four or five year old is not yet asking for the whole birds and bee package. Even the how? question can be answered in small bytes, you really do not have to draw a diagram. Just saying, 'with his penis', or any other special name the family calls it, (yeah come on you can say it!) will usually suffice. Rather, that this information comes from you, as the parents who have your childs' best interest at heart. Don't be alarmed if your gang 'mortifier', decides to share this information with friends, both theirs and yours, it is perfectly natural that he/she wants to share this 'magic' information, therefore the whole age appropriate information thing. (And yes I am quite passionate about this!).

You can be quite pleased with yourself if you have crossed this bridge by the time your child goes to school, and you have already answered the biggie, the 'HOW'! Should your five or six yeaar old require more detail then get the biology book out and show your child the route of the sperm, 'daddys special seed on it's way to the egg and what happens when they meet up with mom's special egg. At age four or five the biology of it all will make your little one lose interest rapidly, 'too much information'. And unless your child is a super scientist in the making, this will probably be the last big answer until quite a bit later. Remember that little kids do not yet have a social moderator in their brains over the questions they ask. This doesn't kick in until around seven or so when they become more socially aware. There is no hidden agenda with kids aged 1-6 and very little up until seven. ( My own child at four years of age was very curious about my growing belly and asked outright if there was a baby in there, when I replied yes there is with a smile, she then asked if she too had come out of my tummy to which I replied yes again. And on preparing myself to answer the next most inevitable question, 'the How' she just looked at my tummy, came over and put her arms (tried to put her arms around) around me with her head lying on the bulge, very happy and not interested in aquiring any further information or explanations! My son who was in the room at the time listened carefully and then he too gave the bulge an interested look before going back to his ants outside which were obviously far more interesting!

Dont avoid answering Your Gang Sex questions as it could allienate you and your gang member to some extent, and they may end up seeking answers from people you may not want to be Your Gang Sex, number one information giver. You are best placed for dealing with sex questions and your gang.

Lucky is the parent who lives on a farm, or has room for pets, so many questions are answered without having to go into great detail as they, the farm animals and pets, do all the detailing they need in their early years. Of course you will still have to tell them when they ask why, the chicken, dog, goat, or what ever, keeps jumping on the other ones back, or as a lot of kids think, attacking the other! Quite simply you answer, 'they are making baby chickens, puppies etc. In general most 3-4yr old kids will just go, 'Oh'! or whatever the colloquial term is for this, and leave it at that until a bit later, which gives you plenty of time to figure out how best to answer the next question.

The point of all this, is that you the parents, are in the best position to treat this information with sensitivity. This unique perspective cannot be rolled out in schools as each child cannot be treated as an individual. Some of our children may get information at school that is beyond their years. If this does happen at school then your youngster may need the information simplified by you. As mentioned before children generally ask questions, and types of questions, that require a simple uncomplicated answer.

Your Gang Sex Questions or body Differences.

Children of four and five do not have an overt interest in sex itself. Mostly their interest extends to differences in body parts and sometimes need to be assured that the differences in their anatomical parts are right and normal. It is my contention that by giving information that has not been asked for by the child, and giving out more than was asked for, or indeed needed at any particular age, may lead to unusual curiosity, and behaviour of the kind you would expect to find in some sexually abused children.

Your Gang Sex Questions and Schools.

The failure in the UK to bring down teenage pregnancies, now also the worst in Europe, is testament to the failure of 'more information, sooner'! Too much information, too soon is as damaging as too little information, too late!

Your Gang Sex and anatomical body parts!

My last word on this is that, using biological names for male and female parts is really not necessary when little kids ask related sex questions. It will not do any lasting harm to refer to body parts in the way that is used on a daily basis in the home. So what ever nickname your gang uses, is totally acceptable. Biology and a few years schooling, will sort out the correct, 'what' and 'where' anatomical names. I don't know of too many adults who refer to their body parts in a clinical manner other than when they go to the doctors.

Your Gang Sex Questions for older Children, requires more detailed information and sesitivity when answering them. If your child of fourteen is asking for information on sex, consider yourself a good parent, this child obviously knows that he/she can ask without embarassment either on his/her parents part or their own.

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