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Hotel Mom and DadHotel Mom and Dad is a trap set unwittngly by many parents who are dead set on giving their little gang everything they could possibly want and more. Usually with such parents their mission in life is to provide their gang with all the things they never had. In some cases they maybe justified in thinking this and trying to remedy it. But in most instances this type of thinking is unjustified. If giving a child a home, food on the table, warm clothes, good schooling and love are the things these parents never had, and they are prepared to provide their little one with these very important things, they should be applauded. However for many parents with children this is rarely the case. From day one, too many parents are hell bent on filling the nursery with stuffed toys, drawers full of clothes that often cost an arm and a leg, being that they must have brand name clothing. It is normal for all parents to want to give their new baby nice things, but what we need to realise is that these nice things are for us to get a kick out of, baby really doesn't know and could care less. The child that has beautiful things but no real altruistic love that puts babies needs and feelings first, is deprived. Children who are born into this world as an accessory or as an item that will love mom unconditionally in order for her to feel self worth, is deprived. Signs of this way of thinking are clearly defined by kids having kids who feel that giving their child a great stage name like Jamal, Ludawn, Leshawn, etc, is going to make them look super cool. The actual child behind the name, is a forgotten item. Kids who have kids, rant on about how their baby will have all the right clothes even if they have to steal them or prostitute themselves for these most desirable things. And there are many adults who are not much better, putting themselves into debt for the best clothes, prams, cots and toys for their accessory child. As long as children are fed and clothed, they will, even with a bare minimum of interaction still grow up quite healthily in the physical sense, but not too well in the emotional department. For as long as the parents keep filling their childs' bedroom with toys, TV's, DVD players, game stations and computers, the less likely it is that they will have a full emotional bond with their children. Little children who go to sleep with the TV on are never going to get into a proper sleep pattern or routine. So no surprise when they want cooldrinks at 11 O'Clock at night and at 2 or 3 in the morning! These children are going to be 'bored' kids by the time they turn 6 if the bedroom keeps being topped up with new games, Skye packages, DVD's etc. And by now Hotel Mom and Dad is already nearing completion. More toys will not solve the boredom problem, as by now these children have the attention span of a gnat and are about as jaded as a rock star. Any new game that does not deliver immediate satisfaction and keep on delivering it, will be abandoned within 10-15minutes and they will be asking for the next new thing. 'Time outs', for these children are a breeze, all their many toys etc are all there waiting for them in their own special room in Hotel Mom and Dad.
Things get even better for children deprived of parental interaction and overloaded with the things their parents never had, as they grow older. Well THEY think it is better, after all their parents have taught them well about what is most meaningful in life! Teen upsets often end up with them in the by now well stocked Hotel Mom and Dad, bedroom. They are not alone there with their thoughts, and doing some refelection! What they are doing is, number one pushing parental emotional buttons by feigning hurt. They are most likely chatting to their friends on MSN or by text and probably on face book. If that gets too boring they can play video games, watch a movie or play music very loudly. At dinner time Hotel Mom and Dad will either call them for a meal, or deliver it to their well kitted out hotel room! Why on earth should they listen to, or appologise for anything? They have already realised something mom and dad haven't and that is that Hotel Mom and Dad is great and the owners are real dopes. Best of all no thank you's or tips are expected. And long sulks are usually rewarded with a present of one sort or another. What these children and their parents don't know, is that they have been deprived of story telling and parent bonding at bed time. They are also often sleep deprived which makes them irritable and breaks down any meaningful communication between them and their parents. Any parent who has had to deal with kids that don't sleep, knows too well how short tempers get if this carries on for any length of time. Children who do their homework in a bedroom stuffed with other attractions are less likely to do it well and are in this way being deprived of a good education. Teachers should not have to deal with ratty sleep deprived, distracted children, and that includes teenagers who if anything need even more sleep. These children brought up on a heady diet of Toys, clothes, trinkets of gold and silver are also less likely to read, entertain themselves, be grateful, have empathy for others, listen to anothers opinion, pay attention at school or have any manners to speak of. Their parents are more likely to try and feed their habit (which they got them addicted to in the first place) in order for some peace. They are also less likely to have a good relationship with their children when they reach their teens and they will be the ones most likely, to expect the schools and the government to teach their children the respect and manners that they as parents reneged on.
Hotel Mom and Dad usually caters well in the food department as most children raised in this style of parenting, generally order what they want from the kitchen. What this means is that they are now deprived of trying new foods. Ordering means they never have to eat anything they don't want, whether or not it is good for them. This is a great way to encourage fussy eating, a habit that will later deprive them of enjoying a night out with friends or even girlfriends and boyfriends. There is nothing less attractive than watching someone push perfectly good food around the plate with unrestrained revulsion and lack of manners. Worse still, is sitting with someone at the dinner table, who cant even hold a knife and fork properly, pushing their food around with unrestrained revulsion and lack of manners! Hotel Mom and Dad has a lot to answer for in so many aspects of their childrens lives. Children who are given everything they ask for, grow into adults who must have instant gratification which is a forerunner to debt. Those who have never read a book for fun as a child, grow into adults who wont read books, either due to a lack of own imagination, or because they find it too difficult. Those youngsters who have never had to entertain themselves outside of the bedroom or house become unimaginative and boring adults. They are also more likely to believe the world owes them, and if they want something it has to land in the lap, like at Hotel mom and dad. A few secrets to a full and happy family relationship. The secret to excitement is anticipation. The secret to entertaining oneself is imagination. Reading develops imagination and conversational skills. The secret to good eating, is tasting and eating a variety of foods with the family at the table when very young. The secret to understanding is a good explanation. The secret to respect is the non acceptance of hitting, biting or throwing food and toys about. The secret to being heard, is to stop yelling. The secret to a family that is well integrated is to close down Hotel Mom and Dad. Material things cannot accomplish what real interest, care, teaching and love can.
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