Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, New Members and Beginnings

At this early stage in Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, start setting the important structures that will make your child feel safe, and those which at the same time, will make your life and other important members lives easier in the long run. This may sound a bit soon, but in fact it is the easiest and the best time to start. This is so because, babies and young children thrive on constants and repetition. You can set these structures up by bathing baby at the same time every morning and evening. Feeding times provide a natural clock as your baby if feeding well, will want to be fed every 3-4 hours. As baby grows and feeds for longer, the time between feeds can slowly be extended until a natural breakfast time, tea time, lunch time, dinner time and supper time is set. This accomplished you have already started to set firm, secure and reliable foundations for your Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation. Make sure that as you set times for feeds, walks and bath time, that they fit in with what is most suitable for you. By making sure that your gangs activities fit in with both yours and dads schedule will mean having adult time which is really important if you intend to remain sane!

Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, Constants Sounds can provide comforting constants and repetition. For instance, the sound of the washing machine and the drier that get turned on at more or less the same time everyday creates an atmosphere of calm and comfort in a world full of new sights and sounds. Just ask anyone who has put their baby on top of the drier to help lull their little one to sleep. Lots of kids get lulled to sleep by road noise, as it too is a constant sound. Even the back ground sound of your favourite TV program that you watch each day can also become a safe constant. Continuity is key to having a content little babe. Remember that the idea behind creating a zone of security and love is to keep all our kids off the street and in our own gangs.[Do not however, panic if your pattern gets disturbed now and again, your child will survive, we may not, but they sure will]!

Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, Comfortable babes

Keep in mind that what may seem like military rule to you is in fact providing and creating a comfort zone to your child, one that is wrapped in familiarity. These structures set up by Gang of Mom and Dad, will help all family members later on, but right now they are for your baby, not for you. Babies cannot judge, and if you want to know how they feel, then think in terms of either, 'comfortable' or 'uncomfortable'. Not in terms of happy or unhappy. A wet nappy is uncomfortable, as are hunger pangs, wind, being cold, too hot and having limbs flapping about all over the show without the security of a wrapping blanket. Real emotions of happy, sad and angry come over a period of months and years depending on how complex the emotion is. Pain is more than uncomfortable and can usualy be deciphered by the type of crying. Many new borns suffer from colic, which is wind but rather more severe than ordinary wind. Babies that suffer from cholic often go blue around the mouth and draw their little legs up. They feed rather badly as they tend to feel full from the wind in their tummies. Crying will not stop until the pain is relieved. All babies need to be winded during and after feeding. Colicky babies need much more winding to help them burp. There are medications that help with colic but as always see the doctor first. Dads can help with this by holding baby against the shoulder and patting gently on babys' back. Talking whilst doing this helps the baby identify dad with comfort and security.

.................................................................................................................................. Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation; Cry babies

Keeping babies well fed, comfortable and secure means there are fewer reasons for them to cry, as they mostly cry due to discomfort. It is possible for your baby to get a fright or to be startled from such things as very loud noises, like a door banging closed or people shouting close by. Startled babes may cry instinctively as crying in all its forms at this early age is geared to attract mothers attention, including crying for food. This is a primal scream for self preservation. I have said that it is geared to alert the 'mother' as moms too have a primal urge to protect their young. (some mothers start to lactate at the sound of their baby's cries). Moms do tend to be the ones who hear the slightest sound made by their babies. I sleep like a log, but even I managed to wake to the sound of my babies tinyest murmurs. It is unfortunate that this hyper-alertedness only lasted whilst my children were very young. By the time they were around the ages of five it had waned and I went back to sleeping through war and peace alike.

Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, Emotions and crying.

Young babes and children pick up emotions from whoever is holding them. They are like little mini psychics. Being held by someone who is afraid soon transfers itself to the child as does uncertainty, anger, sadness and lack of assertiveness or control. Make life easier and plan ahead for bottles, nappys, clean clothes, blankets, food, sleeping arrangements. Keep all the creams for nappy rash, baby soaps and gum soothants at hand. Even if you are not going anywhere having all of these things sorted makes all of us feel more confident and babies suck that stuff right up. When you are indeed upset about something or angry try and dissolve these feelings with deep breathing and long exhalations. Yes I know it sounds trite but it works and with practise it is a killer resource to have! Keep any arguements away from the baby and resolve them as soon as possible as tension transfers to babies faster than a blink of an eye. Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, Tantrums

If you want to avoid tantrums as far as is possible, don't set the stage for them. Buying babies sweeties everytime we go shopping does exactly that, it sets the stage for tantrums when we either walk past that particular shop, or don't have the money to buy sweets when in there. Never make sweets, cooldrinks and salty snacks a regular thing. The longer you hold off on this and any other type of situation that can bring on an attack of the 'gimees', (i.e. toys), the less likely toddlers are to have a hissy fit over not being bought sweets etc. Buying these things does not make a person a good parent. Being adult enough to realise that little kids are learning from our behaviour towards them all the time, and understanding that we Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, are the ones who prime them to behave in certain ways will not make us perfect parents but it will make us wiser in our actions and our kids more tolerant of not always getting their own way. Children don't see sweets as a gift of love, they see them as food! Nice Food! We should know better. The only person expecting anything here and showing off is the parent. We just love to see their little faces light up for us and the world to behold! We conveniently forget how the little faces turn purple and stormy when the sweets etc are not forthcoming. Nothing is gained by giving in, but a lot is lost. Have a good look at kids who are never happy with their Gang of Mom and Dad, or the amount of stuff they have, and you will most certainly be looking at a child corrupted by it's parents desire to show the world how much they love and care for their child! The world doesn't care, and sweets, toys and brand name clothing simply set a child up for constant disapointment at not getting the latest and greatest in a "New york minute"! Things change so fast in the toy, gadget industry, and in the fashion industry that all we achieve by buying all these things as quickly as they come out, is an unhappy and always dissatisfied child. And later, the unhappy adult with many maxed out credit cards. It is hard for us to make the leap from cute little kid to frenetic adult spending more than they earn, but if we love our kids we need to try really hard before we go down the route of never saying no or setting kids up to behave badly! When we believe that our kids have the right to scream and kick their feet or pinch, punch and snatch, they will grow up believing this too.

Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation Taking Time

My own precious two year old granddaughter used to come shopping with me everyday as I bought bits and pieces for my home cooked meals on wheels. As with most two year olds she would grab the nearest chocolate or packet of chips. (placed conveniently at her height, by the store management) More often than not I only had money for the purchases I needed and so would show her the empty purse and tell her 'not today sweetheart'. We never fought about that, but I did have many forced 'catch-me-if-you-can' chases, around the store when she felt like 'window shopping' for a bit longer! There is nothing quite like trying to get a hold of a two year old racing up and down isles shrieking with laughter whilst you are puffing and panting and always at least two isles away! Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation; Confidence and Assertiveness

If in general you find it difficult to be assertive for fear of being judged good or bad, especially by yourself, (we are always our own fiercest critics) see my recommended books that I have used myself in the past (and over again, whenever I feel the need of a boost)and gained inner peace and confidence from. Children are drawn to confident carers.

Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation; Planning

Never confuse love with material goods, but when planning to have a baby make sure that there is enough money for the important stuff. Doctors, creche, nappies and prams etc cost a lot of money. The average cost of kitting the baby out with items like prams, cots, car seats etc can come to well over £1560 (thisismoney.co.uk). In countries where there is no public health service just having a baby can rack up thousands of the green stuff.

Gang Of Mom And Dad Creation, Unplanned

As we know not all babies arrive planned. This does not have to be a catastrophe as long as the parents are willing to give up a lot of freedom and the nice to have stuff for the have to have stuff and their hitherto free time. My own babies were planned from about the age of five, (yeah I know wierd kid) but they arrived at an unplanned time! Luckily for me and my babes I had a job and a wonderful mother-in-law! Less fortunately the loss of my husband meant less time for me to spend with them as infants, but the time I did have with them was so rich, made all the wealthier by good weather, a beach that never had more than a foot of water surrounding it, many brothers and sisters-in-law and two water babes who hated clothing! The main ingredients however were all the resources that my mother-in-law provided. She was the mainstay and the matriarch of my small gang.

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