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Gang Leaders Always Say WordsGang Leaders Always Say words, are sets of meaningful words that we should say to our children on a regular basis.The most obvious but least said, is 'I love you'. This is usually because People feel that these particular words are over used and because of that they become meaningless. This can only be so if these particular words are used when they are not meant, and are used simply to placate a particular someone that was once loved but who we now find irritating and don't have the guts to say so. Children don't or should not fit into this category and if you feel they do, then seek help! No child ever tires of hearing that they are loved but often these words are said less and less as children grow older. This is really counter intuitive because the older children get, the more they have to deal with. School is not always a positive place, other children can be cruel and not all adults make for natural parents, child protectors or care givers. It is true that by setting aside time to help our children and play with them, shows them that we care for them, but even this cannot replace hearing the words 'I love you'. A definite must in the list of gang leaders always say words. 'I am' or 'we are proud of you' is another set of 'gang leaders always say words', that our little gang members love to hear. Even teenagers who try hard to look aloof for the sake of 'cool' like to hear those words from their parents. Reasons for being proud are many and don't necessarily have to be academic. A tidy room, helping around the house, looking after a sibling for a short while and being polite are all good reasons for praise. Finding out what things our children like to do and appear to be good at, will supply more reasons to use these particular words. This last, also keeps otherwise bored children busy and imbues a feeling of accomplishment. Never withhold from telling children of all ages, how beautiful and handsome they are. Everybody likes to hear that they are beautiful! Remember too that young children are extremely observant, they see and interpret facial expressions linked to particular words, so they know what 'beautiful' means and feels like to you. Do not let them down by never letting their particular beauty light up your face. This may be 'old' but beauty is not just a tangible thing like skin, hair, eyes etc, more often it is an invisible thing called confidence. This magical state of mind lights the eyes, hooks a smile and infects all who are in the vicinity!
Gang leaders Always Say sorry, if a mis-judgement or mistake has been made. Love actually does mean having to say you are sorry. Anybody who says they never need an apology, no matter how wrong or bad someone has been to them or how often, is either a saint, or a welcome mat! Since there are too few of us that can claim Sainthood my guess is the latter. Children learn by example, and that is a fact! By admitting when we are wrong and apologising for it, shows children the meaning of empathy and by the same token some morals. No healthy relationship can survive the maelstrom of one person always being right! The last 'Gang Leader Always Say' word is, 'no', it is tiny, but has a huge impact on a multitude of life experiences and levels when left unsaid. The perception that this word is nothing more than a negative is actually false. Children who grow up not having learned this word, generally end up being self-centred, immature, disruptive, bad tempered and a danger to themselves and others around them. Parents who believe that life is so much easier by saying yes to everything their child wants, have no idea of just how difficult things are going to get for themselves, and everybody else that have the misfortune of being in the path of a 'no' 'virgin' child. These are the same parents who believe that the schools and teachers are responsible for teaching their children how to behave, and the very same parents who look hurt and bewildered when their kids get older but don't grow up, or treat them with respect. 'No' is a building block for patience, it forms part of the 'safe' structure and boundaries. It is a reason to inquire and the tip of the moral compass. Children need to be told no, and learn to say no, at the right times in their lives, and this must be taught by their guardians and parents. Make this important word a Gang Always Say word when necessary! Tackling every day problems and children comes at a cost to mind and body. The healthier our mind and body, the more relaxed we are and the more likely it is that we will come across as
confident and calm, a good recipe for instilling belief and trust. Calm parents who take time out for themselves pave the way to calmer children. However, relaxing for most of us is a learned behaviour and for me there is no better or inspirational teacher than 'The Barefoot Doctor'. Liberation : The Perfect Holistic Antidote to Stress, Depression and Other Unhealthy States of Mind Gang Leaders Always Say Adoption Information
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