Gang Dad, Provide Crucial Self Image For Boys

Girl members also thrive on the attention of their dads. I cannot stress this enough, DAD, you are an important member in the Gang of Mom and dad! Too many families are struggling today because of the laissez faire attitude of dads making babies and just walking away.

Casual sex indulged in by both men, women, and teenage girls and boys, although questionable, need not result in a child that is unwanted. This happens in the main because neither one or both parents take responsibility for contraception. This stance is insulting at the very least to both partners with regard to safety for themselves, and at worst, seismic for a child unwanted and born with HIV AIDS.

No matter how tough we think we are, bringing up children on our own is hard. Raising teenagers alone is even harder. Having a dad around, evens the playing field a bit especially with boys, as we women do find it hard to understand male mentality. It pains me to say this as I was one of those mothers who thought I could figure out my sons' way of thinking only to find that I was way off the mark on many occassions, and often still am! There is no better book than John Grays' 'Men are from Mars Women are from Venus' to get an understanding of both the male and female psyche. It will provide both mom and dad with some real insight and no doubt some sheepish laughter when you recognise yourself in his script.

Our Gang Dads are also blessed with a magic voice, kids tend to listen to it! Perhaps it is the quality of authority and pitch that most men seem to carry in their vocal chords! Note also that I say authority reservedly as there is a difference between authoritative and authoritarian. The last describes humans at their worst, the other describes the sound and air of someone who has everything under control. For instance, picture a sinking ship and a captain who calmly and quickly directs people in an orderly fashion onto the life boats and you will get the idea of good authority, very different from an image of Hitler prodding people with the end of a gun onto a life boat! They experience fear at both ends.

Gang Dads are great for rough and tumble play, and for getting kids involved in games and activities of all sorts. Why? because they keep the child inside alive, sometimes a lot longer than we women would like! This inter-play is vital to our kids understanding of how to play with others and what is considered fair and what isn't, or what is too rough and what is still fun. Our Gang Dad forms an important part of the foundations of family and not just as a sperm donor.

If you doubt that dads are necessary, ask yourself why street gangs are run in the main, by boys?? Some sort of self image is sought at all costs, it is a crucial ingredient of self esteem. In gangs the leader acts like a type of dysfunctional Gang Dad. In fact many boys who hang about in gangs are without fathers in their homes, and join gangs for the relative safety of the group and the sense of belonging it provides. These Gang dads reap the benefits of rudderless children through a sense of control and feelings of importance.

Many young boys and girls who grow up without fathers tend to have a cavalier attitude toward fatherhood when it come to having children of their own, believing that fathers are redundant and serve no real purpose other than to fertilise the egg. If this was truly the case I think that nature would have found another way to do this and not wo/man. Most worthy studies show that children who come from a two parent family that is fairly cohesive and caring, do better in school and life in general, than those children who have been left to carve their own way through life. (sometimes quite literally)

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